Being Assertive

It can often be difficult to speak your mind, especially if you lack self-confidence or naturally reserved.
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Being unable to speak up at work can have long-lasting negative consequences. It can lead to stress, or render you almost invisible in a setting where promotions depend on visibility.
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One of the main benefits of being assertive is that it can help you to become more self-confident, as you gain a better understanding of who you are and the value that you offer.
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A friend once sent a mail to her boss that she’s due for promotion and better pay. The boss requested for a one on one discussion, probably an opportunity to prove herself, but she never made the move. Why? Her self-confident defeated her.
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When you’re assertive, you ask for what you need, you talk openly about what you want, and you recognize when someone is taking advantage of you. You can approach the things you do with confidence and make a direct impact on your environment.
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There are two important components to becoming more assertive: (1) learning to treat yourself with respect, and (2) building communication skills.
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Here are some tips to help you be appropriately assertive in the workplace:
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Believe in your worth
It is easy to be assertive when you believe in the value you are adding to an organization. Exhibit professional confidence and express yourself and your opinions.
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Control your emotions
Lack of emotional self-control is a sign of weakness in the workplace and crying is a game changer and usually not a good one. Never speak or react emotionally.
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Set clear boundaries
Boundaries add clarity to relationships and limit unwelcomed behavior and interactions.
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Pick the right battles
It is not necessary to be assertive in all situations. Instead, know when to be assertive and when to hold your tongue. Many things can pass without the necessity of addressing them.

Learn to say NO

If you do not need to do something, you do not have to always accede to others. Saying “no” is a great way to take control of your workplace and relationships.

Ask for what you want
Have you been passed over for a raise or promotion over the last couple of years? Now is the time to get it. Structure the discussion in light of the objective reasons you deserve the additional recognition. Be prepared for the boss to say no. If he does, it is important that you stay focused and positive, and ask for a review in three to six months again. You are not being pushy; instead you are being assertive.

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