Category: Wednesday Wisdom

What Circle Do You Belong?

One thing I have come to realise over the years is how people choose to respond differently to change.

We all know how challenging life can be. We all have things in our life that challenge us – whether it is people, situations or the environment we live in.

There are varieties of things that always interest us, but most are simply time wasting. They are refer to as our Circle of Concern. These are things beyond our control, yet we labour time addressing them.

On the other hand, we give little or no attention to things we could actually control – the Circle of Influence or Control. They are concerns we have control over.

For instance, you may be concern about the economy of the country, but can you really do anything about it?

What people think about you may be a concern, however have you thoroughly looked at your attitude too?

This is why it is important to identify your Circle of Influence within your Circle of Concern.

You might like to invest some time reflecting on the following questions:

  1. Where are you currently spending the majority of your time? In the circle of concern or influence?
  2. Are you currently being as personally effective as you can in your life?
  3. What strategies or tools could you use to help you transform your life?

Whatever it is, I would challenge us all to live today as an expression of what we love rather than what we fear.

I pray that the Almighty grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

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#CrabMentality (CM)

Also known as crabs in a bucket mentality, CM is a widely used term given to people who always try to pull others down from succeeding in life and getting ahead of them.

The phrase “if I can’t have it, neither can you” best describe them.

This refers to a pattern of behavior noted in crabs when they are trapped in a bucket. While any one crab could easily escape, its efforts will be undermined by others, ensuring the group’s collective demise.

The analogy in human behavior is claimed to be that members of a group will attempt to reduce the self-confidence of any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, resentment, spite, conspiracy, or competitive feelings, to halt their progress.

People with crab mentality are everywhere. You can encounter them on social media, where they are always busy criticizing, instead of appreciating the news and stories about the achievements of others.

Attribute as this does not promote unity, humility and responsibility.

Below are some of the signs that can be seen on anyone who is having this unfavorable quality:

  • They are too proud of themselves and treat others as inferior beings.
  • They panic when their friends are happy and improving.
  • They are full of positivity for themselves but full of negativity for others.
  • They blame their friends for their failures rather than help them.
  • They treat their friends as competitors.
  • They will never admit that they have a crab mentality.

Having identified some of the signs associated with those guilty of the bad quality, please find below some of the ways to overcome these mentality:

  • Admit it. Don’t worry. We’re all guilty of jealousy, insecurity and selfishness… at least sometimes in our lives.
  • Open your mind and know other people better. Take note that knowing is the beginning of loving. Don’t judge a man until you’ve walked a mile in his shoes.
  • Be cheerful. Have some calmness, positivity and joy in life. Don’t spend most of your time panicking because some are getting better while you’re not. Instead, be happy about their progress, and celebrate their success.
  • Be a leader. If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

This mentality or attitude will not help us or our country move forward and achieve lasting progress. Let us be the change we wish to see in the world.